We've all at various times had instances and occurrences in our lives that were incredibly painful. You probably instantaneously thought of one of your own as soon as you finished reading that first sentence. Whether you've been used by someone solely for their personal gain with a completely disregard for your feelings, had someone be unfaithful to you, or you've been lied to and, once you discovered the truth, its magnitude was so great that you couldn't feel its pain until you first recovered from its shock, you've been there. But I wonder, how many of you have been someone's mistake? I for one, have. It is an excruciatingly painful thing, especially when it occurs twice in oh, say, six months.
Being someone's mistake is more than just a simple insult or having unkind words directed at you. Being someone's mistake means that they view everything about their experience with you as having negative connotations. It is as if they are casting you aside for being less than adequate for their desires. All of this obviously has a negative impact on one's self-esteem, at least for some time. If this ever happens to you, what you must realize is the following:
You weren't someone's mistake, they were yours. And making mistakes - stumbling, falling, and experiencing the accompanying pain - is how we learn and improve going forward. If you learned just one thing, no matter how seemingly small and insignificant, then the whole experience was worth it.